THINGS TO SETTLE BEFORE MARRIAGE (5)

When we returned from our one-week break after the wedding, someone complained that there were people who did not get to eat at our wedding. My response was simple, “Can I have a list of those who complained that they did not eat so I can know the list of people to unfriend. Both my wife and I do not […]

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THE PORNOGRAPHY VIDEO DISC: THE DECEPTION OF THE CHURCHY YOUTH

I made friends with some of my classmates at the State University. I had settled in fast. I began to fall in love with some of the music of that season. I would borrow music discs from another colleague to listen to at intervals. One day, I borrowed some music discs as usual. When I got home, I began to […]

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CLASSIC SERIES: COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (6)

My dear teacher looked at me that day and told me these parting words about sex in marriage, “No matter what happens, do not take yourselves too seriously. Keep learning. Keep exploring till you get better”. Dear young wife, do you want me to tell you the truth? You must learn about sex. For your husband, it is a major […]

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CLASSIC SERIES: COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (5)

In the space of two weeks, we had argued about almost everything. Little things will bring sparks. I spent a while meditating on what the challenge might be. After one of such disagreements, I gently sought the audience of my wife and told her, “Darling, I noticed that it has been an overwhelming season for you- things have gone so […]

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CLASSIC SERIES: COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (3)

The whole church pulled a fast one on me that evening. As I stepped up to teach at the conference, they screamed, “We love you, Pastor Temi”. They supported it with placards. In a rush, a lot of things came flashing by. I loved and appreciated the moment. I remember telling Irewamiri afterwards, “No matter the public approval and accolades […]

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CLASSIC SERIES: COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (2)

As we drove out that evening, I had an internal debate about whether I should talk to my wife or not. I finally told my wife, “there is something I would like to tell you, and I hope you will not be annoyed”. We have had our fair share of misunderstandings in our few months of being married. I spilt it […]

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CLASSIC SERIES: COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (1)

We were at family devotion that day, focusing on giving. My wife said, “It has been a while since I gave to my husband as my pastor”. One of the young ladies at home said, “But you give to him regularly as your husband”. Irewamiri told her, “Giving to him as my Pastor is a different thing altogether”. Dear wife, […]

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CLASSIC SERIES: COUNSEL FOR YOUNG HUSBANDS (7) – FINAL CHARGE

When my phone rang that day, it was a call from a dear mother. She hit it straight: “There is a boy always hanging around your sister now. What do you think about him?” The boy in question happens to be my friend. I spoke highly of him. Today they are married and doing great. Why did she call me? […]

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CLASSIC SERIES: COUNSEL FOR YOUNG HUSBANDS (6)

It was some weeks to the end of the year. That evening, my dear wife mentioned some things that she needed to get done, but I had no means to handle them. Interestingly, they were not big obligations, but they were pretty important. It got at her. It got at me too! It was one of the evenings I cried privately. […]

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CLASSIC SERIES: COUNSEL FOR YOUNG HUSBANDS (5)

My teacher looked at me that day and said, “For the first two weeks of our marriage, we did not have sex”. I was wondering what the problem was with him and his wife! Did you fight? So what were you people waiting for? What happened? I did not understand. Then he smiled and said, “We spent those two weeks […]

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