May 10, 2022

OUR SEX LIFE AS A COUPLE IS A MESS. CAN WE WATCH PORNOGRAPHY?

A young couple was spending some time with us. While interacting with them, we began to probe and ask questions about their union and especially their sexual bond as a young couple. We shared tips and educated them about things that will help their sexual bond and the actual act itself. At one point, we mentioned that pornography was not […]

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May 9, 2022

OUR PARENTS ARE INTRUDING IN OUR MARITAL SPACE; WHAT DO WE DO?

Some weeks after we had our first baby, I was still a few hours from the end of my working hours. Irewamiri called and asked me, “Darling, when are you coming home?” It was an unusual call. I could sense the tension in her voice. She must have been under pressure. I asked if all was well. She tried to […]

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May 8, 2022

BE YOUR SPOUSE’S GREATEST CHEERLEADER

Some years ago, we had a very faulty generator and terrible power supply in the area we lived. One night, some minutes right after the generator repairer left, the generator shut down – it was a season of physical heat, but it was also a season of marital heat. Irewamiri got tired of the situation and of my pastoral response […]

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May 7, 2022

YOUR MARRIAGE, YOUR PHONE, AND YOUR SPOUSE’S PHONE (2)

We had to step into a marital situation that was degenerating. By the time we got to ask questions, we had realised that it was a phone issue. It was shocking how a simple issue can fester to become so gangrenous. The husband insisted that his wife could not and must not touch his phone. He said he does not […]

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May 6, 2022

YOUR MARRIAGE, YOUR PHONE, AND YOUR SPOUSE’S PHONE (1)

Two of my friends planned to have a time-out. They had booked a dinner at a restaurant. They wanted to spend time with each other. Interestingly, right after placing their order, they began to press their phones. Then it occurred to them that instead of spending time with one another, they were pressing their phones. They decided to categorise their […]

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May 5, 2022

YOU ARE NOT IN COMPETITION WITH YOUR SPOUSE

We were about to wrap up a church hangout for couples when a dear one raised a matter. Someone said to his wife, “Work hard and make a lot of money for yourself because money changes men”. He said his wife told him, and he has not stopped thinking about that statement. We all had an open conversation about it. […]

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May 4, 2022

THE PATHWAY OF THOSE WHO WILL FAIL MORALLY

Irewamiri and I had questions to ask our dear teacher and mentor about the finances of a young family like ours. He looked at us and said, “In my few years on earth, I have seen some of my friends fail morally, and all of them admitted that they first started by failing financially. Any man who fails to be […]

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May 3, 2022

MARRIAGE IS A CURE FOR SELFISHNESS”

Two dear ones had been struggling with their courtship. Matters seem to have gotten to an unimaginable height. Allegations were flying here and there. Their conversation leaned towards a break-up. It was obvious they allowed things to degenerate. Since we had the opportunity to be in their city, it was easy to notice the breakdown so we created time for […]

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May 2, 2022

AN UNTRAINED SPOUSE IS A TICKING TIME BOMB

They had quite some issues in the early days of their marriage. They disagreed over quite a lot of things. It was obvious they loved each other but the issues just seem to be pulling them apart. It had become so bad that it was hard to even hold each other in prayer (that was the first time I noticed). […]

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May 1, 2022

DISAGREEMENTS DO NOT HAVE TO BE THAT HARD

It was a beautiful morning but the atmosphere at home was not that beautiful. An issue was taking some emotional toll on both of us. What had not happened in years happened- our voices were getting loud as we both tried to communicate our feelings. We were both hurt. I got ready earlier and decided to leave the car for […]

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