DEAR HUSBAND AND FATHER, WAKE UP!

I noticed the car was veering off the lane. I looked into the eyes of our driver and noticed that he had slept off; his eyes were slightly closed. I tapped him to wake him up. I kept ensuring he stayed awake. In every family, the father (husband) is the driver. If he sleeps off, he can cause the family […]

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CHRONICLES OF PROCESS: WE COULD NOT AFFORD IT 

Some few months after our wedding, we were in a supermart and we needed to buy body cream for the family. I had no particular preference but my wife had the one she was using as a single lady. We headed straight to the section that housed what we wanted. When we saw the price, we looked at each other. […]

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THINGS TO SETTLE BEFORE MARRIAGE (5)

When we returned from our one-week break after the wedding, someone complained that there were people who did not get to eat at our wedding. My response was simple, “Can I have a list of those who complained that they did not eat so I can know the list of people to unfriend. Both my wife and I do not […]

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CLASSIC SERIES: COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (7)

There were days she slept right between us. We wake up and talk to her first before talking to one another. There were times I told Irewamiri that she uses more endearments for Danielle than she has ever done for me. You will hear things like, “My baby, my love, good morning”. We were drifting apart. Dear young wife, there […]

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CLASSIC SERIES: COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (6)

My dear teacher looked at me that day and told me these parting words about sex in marriage, “No matter what happens, do not take yourselves too seriously. Keep learning. Keep exploring till you get better”. Dear young wife, do you want me to tell you the truth? You must learn about sex. For your husband, it is a major […]

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CLASSIC SERIES: COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (5)

In the space of two weeks, we had argued about almost everything. Little things will bring sparks. I spent a while meditating on what the challenge might be. After one of such disagreements, I gently sought the audience of my wife and told her, “Darling, I noticed that it has been an overwhelming season for you- things have gone so […]

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CLASSIC SERIES: COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (3)

The whole church pulled a fast one on me that evening. As I stepped up to teach at the conference, they screamed, “We love you, Pastor Temi”. They supported it with placards. In a rush, a lot of things came flashing by. I loved and appreciated the moment. I remember telling Irewamiri afterwards, “No matter the public approval and accolades […]

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CLASSIC SERIES: COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (2)

As we drove out that evening, I had an internal debate about whether I should talk to my wife or not. I finally told my wife, “there is something I would like to tell you, and I hope you will not be annoyed”. We have had our fair share of misunderstandings in our few months of being married. I spilt it […]

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CLASSIC SERIES: COUNSEL TO A YOUNG WIFE (1)

We were at family devotion that day, focusing on giving. My wife said, “It has been a while since I gave to my husband as my pastor”. One of the young ladies at home said, “But you give to him regularly as your husband”. Irewamiri told her, “Giving to him as my Pastor is a different thing altogether”. Dear wife, […]

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CLASSIC SERIES: COUNSEL FOR YOUNG HUSBANDS (7) – FINAL CHARGE

When my phone rang that day, it was a call from a dear mother. She hit it straight: “There is a boy always hanging around your sister now. What do you think about him?” The boy in question happens to be my friend. I spoke highly of him. Today they are married and doing great. Why did she call me? […]

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