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NOT OVERNIGHT

My wife and I have a principle for resolving conflicts but it took five years into marriage to see the spiritual importance of that principle. We both cannot sustain a quarrel overnight. There are days I would say to her, “We are not stepping out of this house if we do not resolve our differences. Our home is more important […]

THE BEHEADED SNAKE

My spiritual father was teaching us sometimes ago and shared a story with us. Back in the days in the village, whenever they kill a snake while on the farm, they would carry it back to the village after the day’s work. When they get to the village, they would behead the snake. Someone would place the head of the […]

WAKE UP AND TAKE THE DAY

For weeks, I knew that I was underperforming. I was actually getting tired easily. It seems as though everything was slow. I turned to God one evening in prayer about how I felt and God said to me, “Show me your plan for the past few days”. I had no plans to present. I went to work immediately and drew […]

DEFINE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

I was having a conversation with a protege some years back and he shared a priceless lesson with me. He told me that it was better to give counsel only to people that I have defined relationships with. He mentioned that giving counsel to people who do not care is a waste of time. My Pastor told some set of […]

BECOME EFFECTIVE

I called Irewamiri that morning and said to her that I believe I had to drop a project that I was on in the interim. She asked why. I explained to her that I needed to be more effective. Once I took stock and I dropped the project, I became more effective with the major things in my life. I […]

DEAL WITH THIS ATTITUDE EARLY

When I handed over the honorarium to a dear brother and friend, he said to me, “No sir. Please do not bother”. I explained to him that I came up with a principle that has become a guide to us. We would not exploit friendship. We honour the grace of God on his life and receive him in his office. […]

LOVE CORRECTION

We were having a casual discussion early one morning at home. Irewamiri pointed my attention to something about the ministry. I realised that my attitude was defensive. I walked to her later to ask her, “Darling, I am sorry. I think my response then was defensive. Can you kindly explain to me what you meant with that statement? I would […]

“ARE YOU SURE I WANT TO DO THIS?”

Just some few hours into labour for Olive, Irewamiri began to say, “Are you sure I want to do this?” The pain was changing her stand and testing her resolve. I did not say a word to her. I only listened while I held her intermittently. She went ahead to do it. Beloved, the pains become more when the vision […]

THINGS TO SETTLE BEFORE MARRIAGE (5)

When we returned from our one week break after the wedding, someone complained that there were people who did not get to eat at our wedding. My response was simple, “Can I have a list of those who complained that they did not eat so I can know the list of people to unfriend. Both my wife and I do […]

THINGS TO SETTLE BEFORE MARRIAGE (4)

I had a list of those my wife must meet before we get married (asides my relatives). We made quite some trips. It was tough but it was necessary. At a point, someone told us that we have to reduce our trips but I explained that it was key that my wife met all the people concerned. One of the […]